When I first heard the news of, Nadya Suleman I must admit, I was a bit intrigued. The longest living set of octuplets, what a miracle.  So, I started researching her, that is what I do, I research, research and research some more until I find out enough information to satisfy me.  That is when I began to get more and more disturbed. First, I discovered that she already had 6 children. Then, I learned that she was single mother. Finally, I found that she was unemployed, had little to no support system and had made the conscious decision to bring 8 additional children into the world. I was baffled and upset. Before my husband and I decided to have our daughter, we worked our finances and made a plan. We are fortunate in the fact my husband has a solid career and that I was given the opportunity to work from home so that I could be with my daughter and have a career. But, we would have never made the decision to have a child if we were not financially stable and did not have a support system in place.

I agree with Suleman in fact that she could not have had selective reduction. I too believe that, that once those embryos were fertilized they are children and choosing to selectively remove one of them is wrong. However, the mere idea that Suleman placed herself in that position to begin with is appalling. Also inexcusable is the fact that a medical professional allowed this to happen. From what I understand, the typical number of embryos implanted is 1 or 2 yet he implanted 6, knowing full well her home and financial situation. He should in the very least have suggested some sort of counseling as to what more children would bring.  

As a work from home mother of a boisterous 3 year old, I am the first to admit that mothering is an extremely rewarding experience and nothing can compare to it. But, I am also that first to say that it is my opinion that being a mom is the hardest job in the entire world. To have one child, nonetheless, 14 children, to fill some “emotional void” as Suleman has described it, makes absolutely no sense to me. I don’t know what is going to come next for these children, and I just pray that they will be taken care of well. They did not choose to be born into this situation but yet they will be the ones to suffer, not their mother.